| Special to the Mirror |
Dear Marcia:
I’m a 31 year-old woman. I’ve been dating a man for a year whom I really enjoy
being with. We share many of the same values. We seem to be very well-suited for each
other. But how do I know for sure if he’s the right one? I do have some reservations.
And I am |
Signed,
A little nervous. |
Dear Nervous:
Marriage is a huge step. And you should look at those “reservations.” How will
they stand the test of time? If they are tolerable, ask yourself this question: do I feel
that I got lucky? Remember a lot of times we confuse nervousness with excitement. Let
yourself fall in love. And then let me know how things are going. |
Dear Marcia:
I’m a 38 year-old businesswomen and I enjoy the finer things in life. I’ve been
dating a truly wonderful man for three years. The problem? He doesn’t work. He has
enough money to live on and he’s not that ambitious. I want to get married and have
children but will I regret this decision? |
Signed,
High-Maintenance |
Dear High-Maintenance:
Money is the number one reason that couples give for getting a divorce , so you should
weigh this problem heavily. Can you live with this arrangement, at this financial level
and live a satisfying life? You should also consider how badly you want children. It
becomes increasingly difficult to find a partner as we get older. Don’t try to change
him. You are the one who will have to change. But ask yourself this, is this change a
compromise with myself or am I settling for less? Don’t settle, you’ll be
miserable. Now try this; picture yourself five years from now. With him. Now you tell
me—do you look like you regret that decision? |
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